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When cheating occurs in a relationship, you're left with two options: You can stay or you can go. Both are painful for all parties, of course, but the latter comes with particular challenges as you figure out a way to put the affair behind you.
For many couples, it's the ultimate deal breaker. How can you both forgive and forget? But “the focus on forgiveness after infidelity is increasingly more common in couples therapy," says Dr. Ritu Trivdei-Purohit, a clinical psychologist. "[It] is understood as a process to improve their understanding of themselves, their partner, and their relationship in order to overcome the negative aspects of the betrayal.”
Here, five women explain what it's like to work through an affair—a journey that doesn't happen overnight.
We Went to Lots of Therapy
“I found out my husband cheated when I picked up his cell phone to search for a photo we had taken together and found instead a very revealing photo of another woman. He immediately confessed that he had been having an affair with her for a year. I was completely devastated, but the first thing I wanted to do was see a professional who could help us fix this. We went to couple’s therapy together once a week. He stopped seeing the other woman and we slowly rebuilt our trust. I guess I decided to stay with him because when I caught him, he just stopped. He stopped the lies, told the truth, and then worked with me to make things better.” —Shelly S., 37
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AnnaBlack
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I believe that if the betrayal has already occurred, then this is the end of the relationship. Some psychologists say that you need to forgive. But I disagree with that. An adult makes a choice .. That means he will make the same next time. I'll be strong and find a new boyfriend here - https://www.maturetenders.com/ This is the only adequate answer to such a situation.
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